“The first time I saw the Grand Canyon, one of the things that intrigued me was whether anyone had ever gone over the edge before they realized it was there. You can’t see it until you are on top of it if you are coming out of the pine forest. On horseback and going fast, a cowboy or desperado might have found himself in a free fall before he knew what was happening.

Retirement is a lot like that. For the most part, we come roaring up to it at top career speed and pitch headlong into a world much different that the one we were in seconds ago without realizing the magnitude of the change.”
From Super-Charged Retirement by Mary Lloyd

Has anyone had this experience? I invite your comments.

Heard a speaker who contrasted Anxious Presence to Non-Anxious Presence. Anxious Presence in fear-based in relation to God, lacks self-awareness, always needs more to be satisfied, is inward focused and is low in emotional intelligence. People with Non-Anxious Presence are peaceful with God, calm, joyous, grateful, humble, focused on the present moment, outward focused in service, playful, interdependent and have high emotional intelligence.

Hopefully as we become more mature, we grow in non-anxious presence–though not all do! We cannot fix those who are stuck in anxious presence but we CAN LISTEN. As a coach, it is my job to stay in Non-Anxious Presence–no matter how the client shows up. This has a calming effect. All is Well!